I tell myself often to write more personal posts. But I freeze almost every time. I am usually worried that my message will seem inauthentic, posed, or fluffed in some way. Now I am not one for new year resolutions, but as my business grows, (and I become, i don't know, more adult?) I have started carving a path to being less worried, and more me. So what better way to kick off this effort than with a post on rejection. This weekend I was both personally rejected, as well as rejected someone. Now when I was rejected I immediately was on the defense internally. Why the heck would this person reject me? They do not even KNOW me? Which quickly lends to placing the blame on that individual. Now when I chose to reject someone else I was met with a defensive response, and I realized that she was having the same experience I had just days earlier, and I was being an emotional hypocrite. So here is what I am personally choosing to take away, and learn.
Rejection happens, and placing blame does nothing! Everyone doesn't have to and won't like me/my ideas/my concepts/etc all the time, and the reverse is true as well! And while people have the potential to be cruel, rejection is not the same thing as cruelty or negativity.
So if you are getting ready to reject someone or something, be kind, but don't feel guilty. Were you just rejected? It's ok, so were about 1000 other people today and all that means is that whatever, or whoever rejected you wasn't the right fit for whatever reason so just move along. There are too many other things to worry about then hearing NO.
a girl who hears NO on the daily